cindy246

Okay….Everyone (experts) say you have to deal with issues that happened in your life to help beat the weight. So for the last several months I have been debated what MY issues are. Lordy there are plenty! So now I have uncovered some issues that might explain my weight gain. So now what do I do. How do you deal with issues that happened in the past so they are no longer issues. One of mine is a bad 7 yr marriage to my ex. He was emotionally abusive. I remember him telling me (not asking but TELLING) me to lose weight and I had got very defensive about it. Mind you he was in prison at the time so I lied to him told him I was losing and in fact I was gaining. I remember thinking “FAT??? You want to see FAT…I’ll show you fat” That is one point in my life I gained alot of weight. Now I think back and say I wasnt fat 150 lbs. Compared to my 260 lbs now. I wasnt FAT. I hate him!! He has been out of my life for 9 years now. He has no clue where I am or even how to track me down. So there is an issue…his emotional abuse.

Now the question is…I have uncovered 1 of my issues, how do I deal with it??? I thought I have dealt with him and what he has done to me emotionally to me. But I guess not specially since I am tearing up writing this and thinking about what I went thru with him. Not only was the weight and issue with him but he has left me with sexual issues that has interferred with my life now with my current husband (going on 9 years of marriage). My ex has scarred my life in so many ways it would take pages to tell everything.

How do I deal with it??   I can think of a couple more issues that might be behind my weight problems. So I uncovered issues…….Now What???????  Any ideas would be great!!